Kenapa Masih Single?

Kenapa I single? I cantik, ada rupa, semua ada. But, why? Why am I still single? Soalan yang sering menghantui para gadis yang cantik and single di luar sana. Pelbagai alasan yang diberikan apabila I bertanya sendiri kepada golongan2 ni. Alasan plak sama je “oh, I belum bersedia lagi” and “oh, tak kisah…cinta akan datang jugak. Tapi, semua tahu yang love is so hard to find. Okay, I just nak share my view je kenapa u still single.

 

Tak ada masa untuk cinta

Just admit it, kita semua perlukan cinta. Cinta sesama ahli keluarga tak masuk k. I am talking about love from the opposite sex. We do need love. Everyone wanted a lovey dovey relationship. Tapi, kita busy la sangat mencari duit dan harta sehinggakan tenaga kita habis untuk mencari cinta. No social life after work or on weekends. To be honest, that is sucks. I didn’t say that I am good in socializing tapi that is the truth. Okay, so u xnak socialize perhaps u pemalu or pendiam. Helloooooo…thanks to mark zuckenberg, we have facebook. Yela…friendster and myspace is so last century kan. Plus, sekarang plak dah ada google+. Social networking site tumbuh bagai cendawan tumbuh selepas hujan tau. So, take advantage of it. Tapi, hati – hati k. Berkawanlah dengan orang yang betul2 menerima anda seadanya dan check latar belakang dia dahulu before you guys go steady.

 

Lelaki budiman pupus

Salah satu penyebab status masih single adalah kerana lelaki yang gentleman, warak and baik (kaya and rupa bonus k…) dah berkurang di muka bumi ni. Oleh sebab ini la kebanyakan perempuan di luar sana takut nak mencari teman lelaki kerana takut disakiti hati or terluka. Bagi mereka, being single adalah selamat. Yes, I admit. Looking for mr right and the right one is very difficult. Kadang2 ada yang forcing themselves to flirt around, pasang banyak2 konon2 boleh pilih macam baju. But, at the end of the day, u sendiri yang terluka sebab not one of them sesuai. Siap ada buat u macam tempat lepaskan nafsu je. Ladies, that is not how u roll. U cannot forcing yourself nak cari lelaki and jeopardize yourself. Pilih jalan yang selesa dan selamat and more manageable. Cinta kadang2 tak perlu dicari. Cinta sejati akan datang dengan sendiri juga. For example, me...:)

Standard tinggi perhaps ladies?

I ada je kawan2 yang cantik tapi single. Want to know why? High standards. Yup, mereka setting their standards too high setinggi langit tau. Ada yang nak kaya la, nak kerabat diraja, ada plak yang specifically nak ada boyfriend yang kerja sebagai engineer. You know what I told them? I told them to be realistic. I tak mempersendakan ‘impian’ kawan2.  It just that if you could lower your standards a bit, you will be happy by now. 

Avoid BTN relationship

Bagi sesiapa yang dah desperado sangat, couple je la dengan sapa2 yang masuk line. No, no, no. Kalau dah jatuh cinta with a wrong person and worse u have to stick with him because he loves u like crazy and would kill himself if u dump him. Ladies, think before you act. Jangan terlibat dengan BTN relationship (Better than nothing relationship). Menurut kata pakar cinta Susan Page “If you are in a transition period and a ‘treading water’ relationship is all you want, then a BTN is better than nothing. But, if a life-long, intimate connection is what you seek, then BTN’s are dangerous. They present a major roadblock to finding true love”.

Anyway, kalau la u cantik and still single maybe ada something yang tak ok kot dengan your personality. Hey, just saying. Kalau u ada kekurangan contoh keyakinan diri or anything, change it! Don’t make it as a blocker or it will block your path in order to find the right one.